The only way to solve this problem is to have the server run by nothing but super human friendly androids who make cupcakes. /shrug
If your problem is with other players, you just have to learn how to get along with them unless they break the rules. Next time you're "attacked" just laugh it off or make a joke, don't take it personally. Arguing with anyone in a video game server is usually a bad idea, it literally never leads to a good outcome. Also, who the fuck cares what people think of you?
Ben zen my friend. Be zen.